This article was enlightening. The author kept a great balance between agreeing that more women are victims of domestic violence, but if we want to truly end the debate of domestic abuse, we have to admit that they can also at times be the perpetrators.
Edward Rhymes started his article by reminding the number of women victims not only of domestic violence but also rape and other forms of abuse. He then expressed that, that being said, there also are men victims of women’s abuse.
A very important point he made was when he quoted Jan Brown, executive director and founder of the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men, who expressed that “domestic violence is not about size, gender, or strength. It’s about abuse, control, and power, and getting out of dangerous situations and getting help, whether you are a woman being abused, or a man.” Domestic violence os not only about leaving scars on one’s body, but also affecting them mentally and emotionally.
He also pointed out that few men did speack up about their issues, and that sadly not many were heard. He said that “some researchers estimate that about 20 percent of men who call law enforcement to report an abusive spouse or partner, are, in turn, arrested for domestic abuse”.
He also writes late in the article: “this writer agrees: We need to talk to our boys and men about having respect for their partners in their relationships. Yet, that’s only part of the problem. Our girls and young ladies need to be taught what appropriate behavior is and what non-violent conflict resolution looks like,” which resumes the article beautifully.
Men not only as abusers, but also as victims.