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a view from down under: domestic violence in Melbourne

Great article posted a couple of days ago on the Herald Sun, a Melbourne publication in Australia. It is one of the first Australian articles I came across and it was very interesting.

If you don’t have to time to fully check it out, here are, in my opinion, two of the most important parts:

“One in seven men said they had been emotionally abused by a partner, as compared to one in four women.”

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“Lone Fathers Association of Australia president Barry Williams told Leader that the overwhelming focus on men solely as perpetrators had led to a general suspicion and lack of sympathy for male victims.”

First of all: one in seven men. Not only is it a big number but it is no reflection of the actual number of men who reportedly are victims of domestic abuse. Many believe that men victims of domestic abuse should not be a priority in social issues due to the low amount of victims. What this article points out, which I agree with, is that the statistics of male victims is not a true reflection of the number of actual victims. Which leads to…

my second point: men are not encouraged enough to seek help when they are abused. And for multiple reasons: stereotypes that men are strong and should “take it like a man”, that women can’t hurt them that bad, that men shouldn’t complain and be emotional because it will make them “girly”, or that people would think that they indeed must be the perpetrator or have been violent¬†first. All these stereotypes have to stop.

The article also points out the lack of sympathy for male victims. Men victims of abuse should not be put in the unjustified “men category -which contains a lot of perpetrators (enemies)”, but in the “men victims of abuse -which contains victims, seeking help”.

How do you feel about the debate? Isn’t it time to change?